Tips for Finding a Diagnostician or Other Mental Health Professional

About the Author

Ilia Walsh is the director of Individual and Family Services at AANE and the creator of the Autism In Real Life Podcast. Ilia is a mom of two young adults, one of which is Autistic. She has over 25 years of experience with families, children, and adults through training, education, and support. Ilia is also a registered yoga teacher and also enjoys painting, dancing, and traveling.

AANE often gets asked for help in finding a diagnostician or mental health professionals when individuals are experiencing anxiety, depression, or other kinds of conditions in need of support. Finding the right provider with an understanding of autism and various mental health conditions can be challenging for both individuals and caregivers. Here are strategies to enhance your search:

• Utilize Professional Networks:
  • Explore resources like the Neurodiverse Couples Institute’s directory, which lists AANE trained and certified therapists who serve couples as well as individuals. You can zoom in on your state or use the search function for listings.
• Consider Alternative Formats:
  • Many professionals offer coaching services, which can be beneficial if you’re looking for guidance beyond traditional therapy.

Places to Look

Here is a list of other websites that provide diagnosticians and mental health resources:

• Therapyden.com
• Psychologytoday.com
• Inclusivetherapists.com
• Ndtherapists.com
• Betterhelp.com
• Discord, Reddit, and Facebook groups focused on mental health and neurodiversity.

The Therapeutic Relationship: Finding the Right Fit

Just as in a job interview, finding a therapist is about mutual fit. Both you and the therapist need to assess whether they can meet your needs or those of your loved one. This process can take time, so consider requesting a free consultation, which many therapists offer. This meeting allows you to ask questions and gauge their approach.

It’s perfectly acceptable, and often needed, to meet with multiple therapists before deciding on one. Remember, this isn’t a commitment, and if at any point you feel your therapist isn’t the right fit, it’s okay to discuss your feelings and seek a different professional.

Essential Questions to Ask Potential Providers

When searching for a provider, it’s essential to engage them in conversation to determine if they’re a good match. A neurodiversity-affirming practitioner will focus on working with your neurology rather than trying to change it. Here are some questions to consider asking:

• What is your understanding of neurodiversity?
• How would you describe your therapeutic style?
• What values guide your practice?
• Can you share accommodations or strategies that you believe would be helpful for my loved one or for me?
• For more ideas on finding a therapist, consider insights from KC Davis at Struggle Care.

Additionally, a community-generated list maintained by NeuroClastic can provide further insight into potential diagnosticians,  which can serve as a helpful starting point: NeuroClastic Diagnostic List.